I’m 100 pages into my memoir
about attending college as a mother of five and at the point where I’ve won a
scholarship to the University of Pennsylvania and am about to begin. I’m scared
to death!
Were you ever too eager to please
someone or a group of someones? A boss? A hopeful romantic interest or
co-worker or editor?
Like in many stories or movies,
this is where the protagonist usually messes up. At least in her first few
attempts at acquiring the desired goal of pleasing those in charge. This can
happen for a variety reasons; i.e., not thinking before you speak, doing
inappropriate actions, or not consciously listening to those around you.
At this stage in my college
memoir, I felt the need to prove to those at Penn that I could be an Ivy
Leaguer. I wanted them to see that they did not make a mistake in granting me
the Phi Theta Kappa Scholarship. I needed to make a good first impression at
Penn, and of course it backfired on me.
Transfer students had a summer
reading project, The Tipping Point by
Malcolm Gladwell, and I needed to interpret a connection to one of the topics
in the book. A lively discussion had ensued that hot August afternoon in a
packed College Hall. While all of the other incoming students connected to
topics through academia; sociology, psychology, and business practices to name
a few, I connected to teaching preschoolers through the use of the Sesame Street television show. This topic
in the book talks about how small lessons can make big improvements in the
education of children.
Yes. I heard everyone else speak.
In fact I was almost the last student to speak. I was afraid to speak because
my connection was from life experience, not academic study. I thought possibly
these academics hadn’t had the experience with Sesame Street I had raising my five children. I thought they might
appreciate my insight because it was so different from all the intellectuals in
the room. So while everyone else received comments or questions or further
discussion into their topics from the panel of Penn administrators, my topic crashed
into the floor like a lead balloon. No discussion. You could hear the air
conditioning unit cycle on again.
Just like characters in stories,
our protagonists need to make mistakes, need to feel defeat, anxiety, or
humiliation in order to be real to the readers. Readers want to connect to our
characters, especially our protagonists.
So while our stories are unique,
what our characters do is unique, there needs to be some base feeling or action
that our readers can connect to. Embarrassment is a good one. So is fear of the
unknown or hurt from someone we love or trust. Characters need to be vulnerable
at one time or another in our stories to be real, no matter what genre we are
writing in.
So how do you make your
characters seem vulnerable to the reader or other characters in the story you
are telling?
Please feel
free to offer any insight regarding Victoria’s summer
reading project scenario. It
would be truly appreciated.
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